Unpopular Opinion: Sometimes relaxing just isn’t relaxing.
Hi, my name is Tess and I’m a workaholic. It’s true. I work to avoid doing other things, I work because I feel like if I don’t I’ll be more stressed that I’m behind, and I work because I hate feeling like I wasted time. As a result, I get impatient + burnt out. I’m not my best self, and I pride myself on being helpful (if you don’t know what the enneagram is, go check it out, it’s super helpful at personal growth - yah girl is a s t r o n g type two - the good + the bad of it).
For me, relaxing can be stressful. Specifically, doing “nothing” and doing things for MYSELF is stressful. I have to feel like I’m working towards something or finishing something, or making something better, or helping something out.
To me, cleaning/organizing is relaxing, getting ahead is self-care, helping others do what they need to do brings me joy, and creating/doing hobby stuff (like caring for my plants on a hot summer day) is stress-free fun.
Even Netflix or TV has to have some sort of purpose - it’s background noise for other work, or it’s marathoning LOTR or Harry Potter, or it’s comedy for laughter “to unwind” after a long day.
Today, however, I officially took a day off. Just for me. Just like anything new, it feels weird and I’m a little anxious, but it was nice to not set an alarm or have to write in my agenda. I didn’t commit to any early meetings. I had breakfast when I wanted (+ it wasn’t a protein bar between clients). I played with my plants a little, organized my closet a little (the socks were getting out of hand), and played with my pup a little.
For today: I have a message + facial scheduled and a long walk + yoga on my porch with my pup + plants after that.
So, even though I had to have a plan for my day, and I haven’t just laid around, it’s the perfect kind of “do nothing” day for me. Everything I’ve done has brought me joy and let me feel like I have more control and order over little things that usually take away from my day (I mean, have you ever sock-hunted at 5am? It’s horrible).
What do you do to de-stress? Are you a workaholic?
#thesweatlife looks different for everyone, and that’s okay.
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